WE CAN'T OWN CHILDREN ANYMORE, ONLY INSPIRE THEM
CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE
If a child lives with criticism,
s/he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility,
s/he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule,
s/he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with tolerance,
s/he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement, (self help groups)
s/he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise, (endorsement)
s/he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, (being group minded)
s/he learns justice.
If a child lives with security, (secure thinking)
s/he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, (self approval)
s/he learns to like herself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,
s/he learns to find love in the world.
Many of us didn't have the good fortune of being brought up with tolerance, encouragement, praise, fairness, security, approval, acceptance and friendship. But we did manage to survive; live to talk and write about it. That's a God-shot right there.
Some of us from yesteryear are spending time in 12-Step rooms today re-parenting ourselves. That process is slow and often painful, but the rewards are huge when we can unload the baggage from childhood and do the healing; often in a group setting.
The pitfalls of rearing healthy children in a fast-lane world are becoming more obvious. Many parents, under stress and anger, are not fully equipped to be parents; thus child abuse is often the result.
Usually both parents have to work to make ends meet today. Factor in the economic crisis in which we find ourselves, not to mention that we are in the third generation of drug abuse and promiscuous sex philosophy. The end result of all this chaos is evident in the crimes and shootings done by the young. Responsibility has to be partnered in rearing children, even if family intentions are admirable. Statistics are showing that today's family experience is often hectic and sometimes with tragic outcomes.
Children can no longer be owned - they desperately need to be guided into young adulthood by the services of many. That takes a village.
That village is taking on several shapes and forms; all in a slow manner. Funding is needed at the state level and private groups badly need donations; that is a tedious process. Another village is the mental health component for the young.
A child coming from a less than desirable family life cannot be expected to function well at school when hungry, tired and stressed - in fact, it can leave emotional scars as it targets them 'less than' by other students. For those in the formulative years such an experience and 'bullying' can lead to long-term scars.
Some cities and states are trying to get beneficial programs into place for the elementary schools, such as free breakfast and lunch. In some cases these meals do have a small fee. After school activities like sports, arts and crafts, theater and singing are also springing up in some communities and states, but they also require funding.
The U.S. Department of Agriculture (USDA) has been an active participant for the low income bracket and in the school system through their programs of food and nutrition, rural development, supplemental nutrition assistance program (SNAP), jobs and careers and grants and loans. It is through these larger institutions that hope springs eternal that we can offer our children nurturing, encouragement and support to become the responsible adults of tomorrow - no matter what their background.
As previously mentioned, mental health resources are becoming more of a necessity than ever with child crimes running rampant.
The Power to Change, under the umbrella of Recovery International, has a school program that helps youngsters deal with the everyday events that produce stress points. It was successful in some 35 Chicago middle schools and continues as a program of Recovery International http://www.recoveryinternational.org.
Read more articles on mental fitness for all ages on http://www.tri-mentalfitness.com
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CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE
If a child lives with criticism,
s/he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility,
s/he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule,
s/he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with tolerance,
s/he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement, (self help groups)
s/he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise, (endorsement)
s/he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, (being group minded)
s/he learns justice.
If a child lives with security, (secure thinking)
s/he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, (self approval)
s/he learns to like herself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,
s/he learns to find love in the world.
Many of us didn't have the good fortune of being brought up with tolerance, encouragement, praise, fairness, security, approval, acceptance and friendship. But we did manage to survive; live to talk and write about it. That's a God-shot right there.
Some of us from yesteryear are spending time in 12-Step rooms today re-parenting ourselves. That process is slow and often painful, but the rewards are huge when we can unload the baggage from childhood and do the healing; often in a group setting.
The pitfalls of rearing healthy children in a fast-lane world are becoming more obvious. Many parents, under stress and anger, are not fully equipped to be parents; thus child abuse is often the result.
Usually both parents have to work to make ends meet today. Factor in the economic crisis in which we find ourselves, not to mention that we are in the third generation of drug abuse and promiscuous sex philosophy. The end result of all this chaos is evident in the crimes and shootings done by the young. Responsibility has to be partnered in rearing children, even if family intentions are admirable. Statistics are showing that today's family experience is often hectic and sometimes with tragic outcomes.
Children can no longer be owned - they desperately need to be guided into young adulthood by the services of many. That takes a village.
That village is taking on several shapes and forms; all in a slow manner. Funding is needed at the state level and private groups badly need donations; that is a tedious process. Another village is the mental health component for the young.
A child coming from a less than desirable family life cannot be expected to function well at school when hungry, tired and stressed - in fact, it can leave emotional scars as it targets them 'less than' by other students. For those in the formulative years such an experience and 'bullying' can lead to long-term scars.
Some cities and states are trying to get beneficial programs into place for the elementary schools, such as free breakfast and lunch. In some cases these meals do have a small fee. After school activities like sports, arts and crafts, theater and singing are also springing up in some communities and states, but they also require funding.
The U.S. Department of Agriculture (USDA) has been an active participant for the low income bracket and in the school system through their programs of food and nutrition, rural development, supplemental nutrition assistance program (SNAP), jobs and careers and grants and loans. It is through these larger institutions that hope springs eternal that we can offer our children nurturing, encouragement and support to become the responsible adults of tomorrow - no matter what their background.
As previously mentioned, mental health resources are becoming more of a necessity than ever with child crimes running rampant.
The Power to Change, under the umbrella of Recovery International, has a school program that helps youngsters deal with the everyday events that produce stress points. It was successful in some 35 Chicago middle schools and continues as a program of Recovery International http://www.recoveryinternational.org.
Read more articles on mental fitness for all ages on http://www.tri-mentalfitness.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Bob_E_Dey
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/7748714
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